My fire blazing hot at 60

Dear Pastor,

Please give me your advice. I am a 60 year-old-woman and I am living alone. My husband died five years ago. I have two children and they are married and living with their husbands.

I am a Christian woman. Sometimes I find myself not even thinking about a man, yet I feel so horny. Sometimes it just comes on me. I am in my church and I know men who come around sometimes to see me. But I am careful about what I say to them. Some of them are married, but some are not. They are nice. Whenever I feel this way, I try not to concentrate on it. Sometimes I take a shower and go to my bed. I can't discuss this with my children. They will be surprised to know I feel this way. Pastor, do you think something is wrong with me?

F.

Dear F.,

I doubt very much that you are too old to have sexual feelings. Having these feelings doesn't mean that you are not a good woman or a good Christian. You have found a way to control your sexual feelings. Continue to do so and pray and ask the good Lord to help you keep your desires under control. But I must also add that, if a man in your age group or older shows interest in you and you find yourself loving him, accept his proposal and marry him. Many persons can be sexually active even in their 80s. Don't condemn yourself because you feel horny.

Pastor